Barker Mediation, we understand that choosing family mediation can feel like a big step. You may be uncertain, overwhelmed, or simply curious about how it all works.
Below, we’ve answered the most common questions people like you ask when they start exploring family mediation, You’re in the right place if you’re seeking support, honesty, and clarity.
1. What is family mediation, and how does it work?
A trained mediator assists divorcing couples (or family members) in resolving conflicts outside of court through the structured, private process of family mediation. It focuses on communication, understanding, and practical solutions – especially around parenting arrangements, finances, or property.
Barker Mediation, we guide both parties to express their needs calmly, consider the other person’s perspective, and find fair, mutually agreeable outcomes. It’s not therapy or legal advice – it’s a way forward.
2. Who is family mediation for?
Family mediation is for anyone experiencing family breakdowns-whether you’re:
If you want to reduce stress, avoid court, and protect essential relationships, family mediation can help.
3. Is family mediation legally binding?
The agreements reached in family mediation are not automatically legally binding. However, they can become legally binding through a solicitor by converting them into a Consent Order (in financial matters) or a Parenting Plan (for children).
We always advise clients to look for independent legal counsel advice before finalising decisions to ensure long-term peace of mind.
4. How long does family mediation take?
It varies, but most clients need between 2 and 5 sessions. Each session typically lasts around 90 minutes. Some families resolve issues quicker; others need more time—especially if emotions are high or multiple topics are being discussed.
Family mediation is far faster than going through court, which often takes months or even years.
5. How much does family mediation cost?
We know cost is a significant concern. At Barker Mediation, we keep our fees transparent and affordable. Many clients qualify for Legal Aid, which means family mediation may be free if you’re eligible.
For private clients, costs are usually split between both parties. Compared to legal battles, family mediation is significantly more cost-effective, and emotionally affordable too.
6. What happens in the first family mediation session?
The first step is an individual meeting called a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting). You meet with one of our mediators one-to-one to talk about your situation and see if family mediation is suitable.
If everyone agrees to continue, joint sessions begin. You’ll each have time to speak, raise issues, and work towards a resolution – with the mediator guiding you at every step.
7. Can I refuse to attend family mediation?
Technically, yes – but it’s not advisable. If you’re thinking about going to court, a MIAM is usually required before a judge will hear your case. In most situations, the court will expect you to try family mediation at least first.
More importantly, refusing to attend sends a signal that you may not be open to resolving things amicably—something that can affect how judges view your intentions.
8. What if we can’t agree in family mediation?
That happens sometimes, and that’s okay. Even when complete agreement isn’t reached, family mediation often narrows down the issues or clarifies each party’s position.
If no agreement is possible, the mediator can sign a form confirming that family mediation was attempted, allowing you to proceed to court if necessary.
9. Is family mediation suitable in cases of domestic abuse?
Safety is always our priority. In cases where there’s a history or risk of domestic abuse, we take extra care. Family mediation may not be appropriate in every instance.
During the MIAM, you’ll have a confidential space to talk about any concerns. If there’s any indication that mediation might be unsafe or unfair, we won’t move forward with it.
10. What are the benefits of family mediation over going to court?
People often ask: Why should I try mediation instead of hiring a solicitor and going to court? Here’s why family mediation is almost always the better first step:
Faster: Weeks as opposed to years.
Less expensive: a small portion of the price.
Peaceful dialogue : rather than legal conflict is less stressful.
Private: Totally private.
Greater control: You, not a judge, determine the result.
For parents, especially, family mediation helps preserve co-parenting relationships and reduces long-term emotional damage to children.
11. What qualifications do your mediators have?
All our mediators at Barker Mediation are fully accredited by the Family Mediation Council (FMC). They undergo continuous professional development and have years of hands-on experience helping families navigate challenging transitions.
You’re in safe, compassionate, and expert hands.
12. Will I have to see my ex face-to-face in mediation?
Not necessarily. If you’re uncomfortable being in the same room, we offer shuttle mediation, where each person sits in a separate room and the mediator moves between you.
This allows for calmer communication and is often helpful in high-conflict situations. The goal is always the same—helping you move forward with dignity.
13. Can children be involved in family mediation?
Yes, sometimes. With everyone’s consent, Child-Inclusive Mediation can be used to give children a voice in the process. A specially trained mediator will speak with them privately (age-appropriate, of course) and share their views—without placing pressure on them or making them choose sides.
Family mediation works best when children’s needs are front and centre.
14. What if one person wants mediation and the other doesn’t?
This is a widespread concern. Often, one person is ready to talk, and the other isn’t. At Barker Mediation, we reach out to the reluctant party respectfully, explaining how family mediation works and what it can (and can’t) do.
Sometimes, people need reassurance that the process is fair, neutral, and not about blame. We never force anyone—but we do everything we can to help both sides see the value.
15. How do I get started with family mediation at Barker Mediation?
It starts with a simple, confidential chat. You can call us or fill out our online form to request a MIAM. From there, we guide you through each step—no pressure, no jargon, no judgment.
Whether you’re certain or just exploring options, we’re here to listen.
You’re not by yourself. Every path forward is unique, just like every family. We provide more than just a service at Barker Mediation; we also provide clarity, support, and a peaceful environment to help people work through even the most trying circumstances.
Contact us right now if you’re thinking about family mediation. We’re ready when you are.